#BlogFlash2013 Day 15: Friendship

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Day 15: Friendship

Friendship is another thing that changes when you’re married to the military.  You learn to be more accepting of people, you learn to make friends quickly, yet never lose sight of the fact that it’s probably not a lifetime friendship.  Most times, friendships aren’t the way it’s portrayed on Army Wives.  You don’t get 7 seasons with people.  You don’t get to be besties with the base commander’s wife (there’s no way in hell if you’re enlisted).  You won’t always get along, you won’t always be perfectly supportive of each other.  There will be gossip, there will be moving, there will be days when you want to smack each other.  Your friends typically live four doors down, and the only reason you met is because your kids play together.  Not that the friendships aren’t rewarding.  They are.  I’ve met some amazing people.  But it’s just different.  Meeting people, you’re more inclined to ask the important questions and weed out the people who failed your interview.  You don’t always have time to take a year to get to know someone.  Friendships take the fast track, but always with a sense of reservation.  No one wants to be heartbroken when the inevitable happens, and half your sisterhood has to move across the country (or to another one entirely).  It’s a sisterhood.  A strange one sometimes, but a sisterhood nonetheless.

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8 comments

    1. It’s not so bad really. Just a different pattern. This life isn’t for everybody, I suppose. I tend to be pretty independent, so it doesn’t bother me too much. Changing homes and friends, living in different places, it can be fun if you get yourself in the right frame of mind 🙂

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      1. Well there go. I’m glad to hear that. And you’re right. Different people can handle different things differently. A lot differents in there, ha. I’m like you. I adapt well with circumstances.

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      2. Yes, I do well with viewing change as an adventure. Maybe it comes from having divorced parents and going back and forth? Not really sure. I do tend to be a bit of a hermit at first. I’m not one of those Navy wives whose first mission is to go meet the neighbors and find a group of friends. I tend to mind my own business and let the good ones come to me, hehe!

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      3. That’s good insight on your part and I’m sure there is truth to that. I’m sure due to that fact you guard yourself and don’t allow too much of you out in hopes of preventing yourself from being too hurt and/or attached. Ha, I’m kind of the same way. I’m quite perceptive and watch before I interact 🙂

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      4. Very true! I’ve also had a couple of incidents with “clingers.” I talk to them once, and I’m friendly. The next day, I can’t get rid of the person! So I try to weed out the crazies before I’m too nice, lol!

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    1. Thanks! Friendship really is one of the nicest things in the world. Nothing means more than when you need a friend, and someone is there for you. I can’t tell you how much I’ve been blessed and touched by my friends over the years!

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